During the process of publishing The One We Forgot to Love, I interviewed Sandy Totten about her first novel. Here’s what she had to say.
1. What inspired you to write The One We Forgot to Love?
I have always wanted to write a novel, and I find my best writing comes from personal stories and emotions I have felt in my lifetime. The family in the story mirrors my family in some ways, and I wanted to share a story with others that lets people know they are never truly alone in their struggles.
2. Is there a message in your novel that you want readers to understand?
I think there are different messages throughout the story that readers will relate to. One message I really wanted to convey is that you are never truly alone despite how you may feel. There is always someone who cares for you and is willing to help you. There is no shame in needing help.
Another message is that good communication is imperative to having healthy relationships. We need to understand that everyone processes things differently and have compassion for how they need to process their emotions.
3. What was the hardest part of writing The One We Forgot to Love?
The hardest part with writing this story was making sure I conveyed an accurate account of how each character was feeling and staying true to how life evolves.
4. What genre do you consider your novel? What age group is it appropriate for?
Although the story has many non-fiction facts woven throughout the fiction, the genre is literally fiction. This book is for teenagers and adults alike.
5. How would you describe The One We Forgot to Love to someone who has not read the novel?
I would describe the book as a story many can connect with. We all know someone who has struggled with mental illness and it’s not only tough for those who personally experience it, but for those who love them. The journey is felt by each character, and we see their perspective on the situation and realize that everyone is struggling in their own ways. It’s about a family who loves one another so deeply but get a bit lost in their own pain.
6. Who is the main character in this book? What is her name, where does she live, what’s her profession and what do you like about her?
Although it is Seri who struggles with mental illness, Adalynn is the main character. Adalynn runs her own garden shop but likes to consider herself a mother first. She loves her family but can’t seem to balance the love she has for everyone against the constant worry she is losing someone she loves. What I like about Adalynn is her passion for her family and her capacity to forgive.
Where to Buy the Book
The One We Forgot to Love is available at Amazon.
Sandy doesn’t have a website.